Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Blurred Lines?

Confession.  I heard this song and thought it was just about the best thing since sliced bread.  Then I kept listening to it, over and over and over.  Suddenly I was learning the words. Wait, the words!  What was I singing?  Hold up.

I'm a music person first.  A song catches me with the beat, not the words.  And man is this song catchy.  Why do those have to be the words?!  Why can't I just enjoy a fun summer song.  Can people make music that isn't so demeaning?  I would never in a million years let my daughter listen to this, so why am I?

And don't get me started on that video.  I mean, what is that?!  Aren't these guys all married?  Are their wives really happy that they are cavorting with naked ladies for no reason.  Ugh, I just can't.  What's worse, I read that it was directed by a woman.  Really?!

So as much as it pains me to do it, when Blurred Lines comes on the radio I shall be switching stations henceforth.

Dear JT, I'm not too happy about your boobies video either.  At least yours can be characterized as artistic, so I'm going to let it pass.  Please don't do it again though.

Saturday, July 6, 2013

Christian Men Don't Date

Ok, ok, that's a very broad statement.  What I should say is, in my experience, the Christian men I have encountered don't seem to be too overly concerned with dating.  Sure, some of them do and to them, I say kudos!  Well, as long as you're not a serial dater.  I don't see many of those though.  Most of the guys who actually ask girls out eventually find one and get married.  Weird how that works out.

This is a continuing discussion among my single lady friends.  Actually, it's not much of a discussion anymore.  We've pretty much tired of the topic and just approach it with an "it is what it is" mentality.  But I can't seem to get it out of my head lately.  The more at peace with it I become, the more infuriated I get.  I was never one of those girls who dreamed about her wedding and had it all mapped out.  I was always focused on school and career goals.  And that's not to say I had blinders on, I just wasn't all wrapped up in the husband chase during the college years.  But never in my wildest dreams would I have imagined I would be sitting here at 33 still single without a prospect in sight (on a side note, I keep thinking I'm 34, but that's a whole different story).

"But what are you doing about it?" is often the refrain I hear from those who are married.  No, I'm not in bars trolling for guys.  I'm not at the gym on the lookout.  I don't pass by cute strangers and strike up a conversation.  You know where I go?  Church.  Yep, church.  Why you ask?  Because the Bible tells me I'm not supposed to be unequally yoked.  It also tells me I'm supposed to be submissive to my (future) husband, and let's be honest.  Being on the prowl from the get-go doesn't bode well for my submissiveness, now does it?  No, I'm supposed to wait for the gentleman to ask me out.  He's supposed to pursue.  He's supposed to lead.  Our courtship should be the model of our marriage.  But here's the problem.  Christian men aren't dating.

I see them.  They're there.  They exist.  I know them.  They are my friends.  But evidently we Christian ladies actually in the church just aren't appealing to them.  Maybe this is a bigger problem because I choose to live in LA and every other girl out here is drop dead gorgeous actress wannabe and my guy friends are under some false delusion that they deserve that type of woman regardless of whether she is a Christian or not.  While this doesn't help the situation, I don't really think it's the culprit.  I think this is happening in churches across the country.  These men are in a suspended state of adolescence and don't seem to want the responsibility of a family.  And for some reason, the church is just turning a blind eye to it.

I know what you're thinking.  Terri, find ways to meet more guys!  I hear you.  But I also work a 9 to 10 hour day and commute about 45 minutes each way, so the weekdays are out.  I joined a men's softball league and am having a blast, but there doesn't seem to be anything there.  I'm on e-harmony.  I even joined Christian Mingle.  The next step is to leave my small church plant and go to a bigger church where the odds might be better.  Except they won't because my friends have done just that and the result is the same.  No one is getting asked out.

Instead, we get together on Monday nights to watch The Bachelor and laugh at it (but secretly long for that same pursuit in our lives) and plan how long until we can afford to buy a house in the hills together and finally embrace our spinster destiny...while the church doesn't seem to notice or care.

ADDENDUM: The boy said I should update this because, well, he asked me out.  I still stand by the original thoughts though.  As one of my friends jokingly stated (and lucky for me) "evidently he didn't get the memo."

Friday, July 5, 2013

I promised something more saccharin for my next post...

This is a note my niece gave me a couple of months ago...




I cracked up when I read it.  Evidently a friend of hers was a flower girl in a wedding, and she desperately wants to be one, too.  I'm not certain why she thinks cute boys are at the "haircut place."  Her haircut place must be a bit different than my haircut place.  ;)

This is all funny and lighthearted, but it leads me to my next post...

Wednesday, June 19, 2013

What's on my mind?

Hello blogosphere.  I haven't posted in a year.  There should be a lot on my mind, right?  Wrong!  I feel like nothing has been on my brain much the last year, that's why I haven't posted anything.  Or maybe it's just that I felt the need to interact with real live people.  Oh, who am I kidding.  I was just addicted to my iPhone and sick of my desktop.  And now I've got a shiny new laptop, so watch out.  I may actually post a couple of times this year...or not.

Actually, something has been on my mind that prompted my annual blogger login.  And that's this whole gay marriage debate.  I know, I know.  I've already posted about this before, you say.  And no, my views haven't changed.  I'm still anti-anti-gay marriage.  In case you're confused by that double negative, I'm not against gay marriage on a government level.  I just hate saying pro-gay marriage because Biblically I'm against it.  But that's a separate issue.

Here's what's annoying the crap out of me though.  Why do I have to agree with your lifestyle?  News flash - I DON'T!  And that doesn't make me a bad person.  And I don't think you're a bad person.  Quit projecting that hatred onto me just because I have a different opinion.  Quit telling me that my opinion is only ok if it aligns with what you've decided I should believe.  I believe in the inerrancy of the Bible. It's not outdated.  I can't pick and choose what I believe from it.  It's all truth.  If you want to sit down and have a more detailed conversation about that and any questions you may have, then I'm game.  Let's do it.  I love talking about Jesus!  Let's just be civil with one another.  You have your beliefs.  I have my beliefs.  Why do we have to be enemies?  Calm down!!

And hey there, friend.  Guess what?  Remember, earlier, I said I was anti-anti-gay marriage?  That's right.  I'm one of those Christians who's kind of on your side.  Don't get confused, I'm not a liberal Christian.  Check back to that last paragraph in case you're confused.  I get flack from my Christian brethren for my position on the issue and I'm ok with that.  But I get ticked off when you attack them.  I get worked up when I read about lawsuits against them because they don't want to bake you a cake for your wedding.  What point are you making?  There are plenty of people out there who would be happy to help with your big day.  Go give them your business.  Leave those people that don't want to support your marriage alone.  Drop the lawsuits.  Walk away.  Be happy that you're succeeding in your fight for equal rights.  Surround yourself with those who support you.  Give your business to those who support you.  This isn't a discrimination issue and don't try to make it one.  I'm sure any of those business owners would be more than happy to make you a birthday cake.  They just don't want to support your marriage because it goes against their beliefs.  And why should that bother you?

So help me if you start attacking churches and pastors that refuse to perform your marriage ceremony...

Ok, rant over.  Go about your business everyone.  Maybe next post I'll talk about puppy dogs or something equally saccharine.